Why We Shouldn’t Admire Workaholics

On the last school day of each year, my district recognizes retiring teachers at an ice cream social type of event. The entire faculty attends. The principals of the retiring teachers stand up and tell some bad jokes, then they say some nice things about the teachers. You know.
One year, one of the principals started her speech by talking about how dedicated Judy was. “Anyone who knows Judy knows that she’s the first one here and the last one to leave every day, even after all these years,” she said. We were supposed to be impressed. I wasn’t.
There are two types of workaholics, and neither of them deserve our admiration.

 

The Addict

The first type of workaholic is the kind of person who has great passion for and is highly skilled at his job. He gets up in the morning and can’t wait to get started. He works all hours of the night because it’s a thrill. He gets a buzz off it. Rather than burning him out, the work invigorates him. It’s in his blood. When we think of people like this, we often can’t help but think of them in any way other than their association with their life’s passion. Think of Steve Jobs and you think Apple. Think of Mark Zuckerberg and you think Facebook. They’re the embodiment of that whole, “Find a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life,” thing.
There’s nothing to admire about someone who spends an ungodly amount of time doing the very thing that gives him a lot of pleasure.

 

We don’t admire other people for doing what they love to do. Nobody is going to write a book about me because I spend hours watching football and eating potato chips. There will be no biopics made about some fat 35-year-old who spends six straight days playing video games. I had an uncle who loved to drink beer. Not only would he have done it for free, he gladly paid others for the privilege. There’s a name we give to people who can’t stop doing things they love to the detriment of other areas of their lives. The word is addicts. We don’t tend to admire them. How is being addicted to one’s work fundamentally different from being addicted to heroin, pornography, or gambling? Why should anyone admire a workaholic who does nothing but dedicate untold hours to something he really really gets off on?

 

To answer my own question: The only difference between workaholics and addicts is that society values the workaholics’ addiction more than the addicts’. It shouldn’t.

 

The Misguided

The second kind of workaholic is sadder than the first. These are people who do not love their jobs, but they kill themselves at them anyway. They sacrifice the best years of their lives, missing out on their kids’ childhoods, straining relationships with those who love them, and making themselves miserable for the sake of pride, a misguided sense of dedication, guilt, or the almighty dollar. Picture the Wolf of Wall Street guy.

 

There is nothing to admire about someone whose appetite for approval and recognition destroys so many aspects of the rest of their lives. Workaholics like these wouldn’t exist if society did not reward them with the very thing they so desperately want, its admiration.

 

Workaholic Teachers

Here’s why it matters for teachers. There are those who genuinely love teaching. They are passionate and skilled. For them, teaching is not really work. The long days don’t burn them out. They get physically tired, but not mentally or spiritually drained. They’re in “flow” when teaching. These teachers are rare. Many of them are excellent. But we should stop holding them up as a standard all teachers should aspire to. You can’t instill passion where it doesn’t exist, and if the only people we’re willing to put at the head of classrooms are those who live and breathe all things teaching, then class sizes are about to skyrocket. The world needs a lot of teachers. The U.S. alone has 3.1 million of them.

 

The rest of the workaholic teachers–those who either lack passion or skill– won’t make it much longer. They are exhausted. Many are on the verge of burning out. They’re under the false impression that to be any good, they must put in long hours. They’ve lost any semblance of a work-life balance. They’re giving up so much because they feel external pressure to do so. They’re leaving the profession, sharing their stories, and those stories are keeping young people from even entertaining a career in education.

 

We’ve done that to them. When we as a society admire workaholics, we send the message to teachers that they must break their backs to be valued. It’s a dangerous message, and we are now reaping what we have sown. 

14 Replies to “Why We Shouldn’t Admire Workaholics”

  1. Just wondering if the description below was necessary..this is a rather insulting statement and does not help in your argument of why workaholics should not be admired.

    ‘There will be no biopics made about one of those fat Asian kids who spend six straight days playing video games. ‘

    1. I completely agree. Completely unnecessary. I actually had to go back and re-read to make sure I’d read this statement correctly. I found the article to be thought provoking (I am indeed one of those in the first category who loves their job and going to school, works long hours but am proud to be constantly striving to achieve), however I also found it to be quite inappropriate and somewhat racist. I get your point – I do – but there could have been a better way to say it without bringing race into it.

      1. You’re right. It was meant as a topical reference, as I’d seen a story on the rise of gaming addiction in Asian countries on 60 Minutes recently. However,there are certainly gaming addicts in many countries, including my own.

    2. Yes, you lost me by including this as an example. Not sure what size of the person had to do with race or game play. An easy stereotype?

    3. Thanks for the feedback. It was meant as a topical reference, as many news outlets have started to run stories about increasing gaming addition in South Korea and China. 60 Minutes did a video game “detox” story a few weeks ago. However, I see your point and have removed the offending language.

  2. Great article.
    I’ve been trying to tell people that workaholics are addicts for a long time. Workaholics set the wrong precedent for those that are not workaholics. Employers think, “Well *So-And-So does it, why can’t everyone else!?” Then everyone else is pressured to perform the same as the addict.
    In addition, the addiction destroys the victim whether they realize it or not.
    You hear of people on their deathbeds talking about what they wish they had done differently, and many of them say they they wish they hadn’t have focused so much on work and that they wish they had spent that time with their loved ones instead.

    1. Exactly. I should have consulted with you on this article. Your points mirror my concerns, but sometimes the words just don’t come. Thanks for adding to the conversation.

  3. I appreciate most of your reads, but the term, “fat, Asian kid” wasn’t appropriate.
    It’s true that relaxing is important for body, mind and spirit.

  4. I think generalizations are dangerous with respect to how much time a teacher needs in order to provide experiences that optimize learner experience. What your message communicates is not to bother with with finding a better way to educate. Authoritarianism is fine. Your message communicates to teachers they should go on their merry way, continuing to deliver instructional content within a radical behaviorist learning paradigm as the system dictates. No need to view learners as distinct individuals who have been unwittingly coerced into standardized task rabbit training. If one sees the need to take the time in order to change the learning environment in order to humanize future citizens (children’s) experience, don’t bother.

    1. Quite a leap to go from recommending teachers stop admiring those who put in long hours to endorsing the current way we educate students. But to address part of your critique, no, I don’t think it’s necessary to work 12-hour days to challenge the radical behaviorist learning paradigm.

  5. I needed to read this so I can stop
    Feelung guilty for not working as many hours as my coworkers! It was once said to me by an administrator that those teachers who come in on Sundays and work long hours during the week are highly effective! I decided at that point that if that was true, I would probably never be highly effective! There has to be a balance and my family will always come first!

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